In a great relationship there is RECIPROCITY and the POWER is shared. Both people’s thoughts, feelings and preferences are important. But some people are emotionally unhealthy and unable to negotiate relationships in that manner. Emotionally unhealthy partners don’t comprehend the concept of MUTUALITY because they need POWER OVER. Here are some questions…
Yet is a common English word that when used as a conjunction is equivalent to “but” or “nevertheless”. It means at a future time, in spite of a preceding event. A psychiatrist friend of mine named Betty, claimed YET was her favorite word. Betty would tell clients, “I know your story is discouraging and it’s…
Mistakes are a normal stage of growth. But too often we don’t relax and learn from our mistakes. We became paralyzed perfectionists because we don’t want to make a mistake. In a recent study two groups of students were taught random words. One group was coached and told, “Mistakes are normal and will be a…
Why Did You Do That? No one likes to be challenged about their mistakes. It is human nature to get defensive and argumentative when questioned. The brain seems to shut down with a “why” question. For example, can you remember as a child being asked a question like, “Why did you spill the milk?” Do…
Do you find yourself doubting your beauty? A recent Dove documentary shows an artist sketching with his back to women as they describe themselves. After first completion of the first sketch the artist draws the women as an acquaintance describes them. The second rendering is strikingly more attractive than the first; participants recognize they see…
Self Control When a child is out of control, parents get controlling. But this reaction does not teach your child self- regulation. In the long term, an over control style can trigger resentment or rebellion in the child and does not create an internal locus of control. The 1960’s Stanford Marshmallow Experiment has been the…
Gritty people dig deep and stick with tasks year after year. They have the passion and determination to work at their goals like a marathon and not a sprint. They have courage, resilience and character. They find success.