“I believe that appreciation is a holy thing and when we look for what’s best in a person we happen to be with, at the moment, we’re doing what God does all the time. So, in loving and appreciating our neighbor we’re participating in something sacred.” Fred Rogers How do we show appreciation to our…
When someone hurts our feelings, it is hard to see beyond three choices: Have an angry confrontation Say nothing but get even Say nothing and feel bad Three examples: Bill felt angry at recent actions from his neighborhood HOA board. He fired off an angry email to the president. The president became defensive and forwarded…
Why Did You Do That? No one likes to be challenged about their mistakes. It is human nature to get defensive and argumentative when questioned. The brain seems to shut down with a “why” question. For example, can you remember as a child being asked a question like, “Why did you spill the milk?” Do…
We need to roll with resistance to avoid the harms of the righting impulse.
Principles of successful relationships from my father’s life.
Too often married woman are loyal to their partners but aren’t in love and they don’t feel cherished. When a woman doesn’t feel loved she can become critical, unresponsive and have a low sexual desire.
Let adult children take responsibility for their choices and express faith in them to change their situation.
Healthy couples signal each other frequently that they are important to each other and what matters to you, matters to me.
Listening well to our family and friends is the kindest and most compassionate response.
spouses who are emotionally generous with each other are happier. Check to see you are as interested in meeting your partner’s needs, as you are your own.