The Trap of Perfectionism
Perfection is an illusion. But
we accept the mantra in our heads saying, perfection is possible, we should strive for it at all times and once we reach the state of perfection, we will be happy.
This Is My Fight Song
How To Fight For You Discouragement comes to us all. But some people find something deep inside of themselves helping them survive situations where others fail. They successfully navigate through trials. They find courage in their inner courage. They fight. What is that something? If you had it would it raise your self-esteem? Would you…
Tame Your Critical Voice and Increase Self Esteem
Often we are our own harshest critics. The lecture that plays in our head is much more unkind than any thing spoken out loud by our bosses or associates.
You must be careful and aware of how you talk to yourself because you are listening and it does affect your self esteem.
Parable Of The Cherry Tree And Childhood Wounds
My Unfortunate Cherry Tree Worthless, puny and scrawny were the words best describing my 20-year-old cherry tree. Despite the passage of time, the tree never grew. Before chopping it down, I asked a gardener, “Why isn’t the tree thriving?” He carefully looked it over and said, “This tree trunk is knocked once a week when…
Back To The Future To Create Your Self Esteem
Future pull “Back to the Future” is a 1985 American science-fiction adventure comedy film where Marty McFly goes into the future to fix the present. What would happen if you could go to the future and create your better self? When people first seek therapy, they are often focused on the past and what isn’t working. Change…
Failure Is A Part Of Your Success Plan
Mistakes are a normal stage of growth. But too often we don’t relax and learn from our mistakes. We became paralyzed perfectionists because we don’t want to make a mistake. In a recent study two groups of students were taught random words. One group was coached and told, “Mistakes are normal and will be a…
Beauty From The Inside Out
Do you find yourself doubting your beauty? A recent Dove documentary shows an artist sketching with his back to women as they describe themselves. After first completion of the first sketch the artist draws the women as an acquaintance describes them. The second rendering is strikingly more attractive than the first; participants recognize they see…
Grit: The 4 Letter Word For Success
Gritty people dig deep and stick with tasks year after year. They have the passion and determination to work at their goals like a marathon and not a sprint. They have courage, resilience and character. They find success.
Your Are Stronger Than You Know, Find Your Overlooked Strengths
Likely, you are stronger and more resilient than you know IF you accurately understand your strengths and resources.
How To Eat Your Elephant: Baby Steps For Success
Understand how your brain chemistry—progression comes from small actions every day.