Different therapists use a variety of methods, but research repeatedly shows that the quality of the relationship between the therapist and the client is the best predictor of change regardless of the method used. Carl Rogers, a well known psychologist, felt that the primary requirements of a good counselor were:
- unconditional positive regard towards the client,
- genuineness or authenticity in the interactions
- empathic understanding
Rogers believed this type of interaction created the ideal condition for client change.
How do you determine whether your therapist meets the Carl Rogers standard? Try using your “gut” sense as a quality barometer. You are the authority on your life. You can trust your instincts to know if a therapist is right for you and if your therapy is generally headed in the right direction. No one is perfect, including therapists. Keep in mind that if your therapy feels difficult and frustrating, it may be normal and a sign that you are changing. The change process is not easy.