The Trap of Perfectionism
Perfection is an illusion. But
we accept the mantra in our heads saying, perfection is possible, we should strive for it at all times and once we reach the state of perfection, we will be happy.
Survival Of The Kindest: Why We Love Mr. Rogers
During a time when politics seems very polarizing and extremes viewpoints gain headlines, it is rewarding to watch the movie, “A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood”. The movie chronicles the life of Fred Rogers and the philosophy behind his highly acclaim television programing for children. As a young mother, I watched his television program and…
How To Respond When Someone Hurts Your Feelings
When someone hurts our feelings, it is hard to see beyond three choices: Have an angry confrontation Say nothing but get even Say nothing and feel bad Three examples: Bill felt angry at recent actions from his neighborhood HOA board. He fired off an angry email to the president. The president became defensive and forwarded…
This Is My Fight Song
How To Fight For You Discouragement comes to us all. But some people find something deep inside of themselves helping them survive situations where others fail. They successfully navigate through trials. They find courage in their inner courage. They fight. What is that something? If you had it would it raise your self-esteem? Would you…
Depression, Is It In Your Mind?
Depression has many causes. Sometimes depression is organic and can be treated with medication. Sometimes depression is situational, meaning it is caused by the way we organize our thoughts or feelings about situations in our lives. Sometimes it is both situational and organic. Situational depression can be treated by working to reorganize our thinking…
Top Card: What Are You Like Under Stress?
Under Stress We Have A Primitive Brain There are distinctive styles of our stressed primitive or reptilian brain. What style do you use? Lynn Lott’s “Top Card” activity provides insight. Ask Yourself: If UPS had four packages for you and you could turn away one, which one would it be? If you never have to…
17 Tips For Dealing With Anxiety
TIPS When you get stressed or overwhelmed ask yourself, “Is there another way to see this situation?” Change your mind set from forecasting disaster to problem solving. Think of a person you admire who makes handles stress well. Ask yourself, “What would they do in my situation?” Physical movement can create emotional movement and get…
Tame Your Critical Voice and Increase Self Esteem
Often we are our own harshest critics. The lecture that plays in our head is much more unkind than any thing spoken out loud by our bosses or associates.
You must be careful and aware of how you talk to yourself because you are listening and it does affect your self esteem.
Why Are Successful People Jerks?
With the recent accusations of New York’s governor Cuomo, the impeachment investigation of Trump, and shocking behavior at the Capitol insurrection, we are once again stunned with headlines announcing misbehavior from a famous member of society. Why do prominent people destroy their reputation with unkind anti-social behavior? Columnist Christian Sagers, writes, “I’ve heard tales of…